An Agonizing Situation Made Almost Pleasurable

Many years ago, while still in the corporate world, I was hiring for a key position within my department from a pool of internal candidates.  Two finalists emerged.   One was an up-and-comer; the other was seasoned.  Both had unique strengths.

I hired the up-and-comer. …but it wasn’t without a lot of consternation.

Turns out, the seasoned candidate (let’s call him Rory) had lost his former position as a result of a downsizing. Rory could post for any internal position he wished, but was given a time limit to make his transition.  If, after a pre-determined number of months, Rory failed to land a job—he’d be let go.

It was the 11^th hour when Rory interviewed with me.  Rory wanted to be hired on merit, although we both knew that if I didn’t hire him his stellar career with that company would be over.

Naturally, I was torn.  It wasn’t a decision I took lightly.  In the end, I didn’t hire Rory–as the other candidate was a better fit for our department’s needs at the time.  Even though I felt good about doing what I thought was the right thing for the organization, I agonized over making that phone call to Rory.

Despite being disappointed about not being chosen, Rory was gracious beyond words.  A normally tension-filled call was made almost pleasurable by how he conducted himself.  To say I was impressed is an understatement.  A year after leaving the company, Rory called me to re-connect. He had made a successful transition to another organization—one he was flourishing in. We have subsequently stayed in touch.

How many times have you heard about these types of situations going ‘south’?  I know I’ve heard of far too many!  Given the stakes involved, it’s no wonder why.

It was Rory’s professionalism that helped turn a potentially contentious situation into a really positive one.  He really stood out.  In that situation, Rory demonstrated mastery of his emotions. Plus, he didn’t let his ego undermine him in a highly stressful situation.  Of course, all of this is consistent with mind-set #6—a mind-set that most people struggle with.

Think about the people you consider to be a consummate professional.   I’ll bet they rate high on mind-set #6. They’re likely to take a measured approach to stressful situations; and not be prone to uncontrolled emotional outbursts.  The types of professionals remain in control, never letting their ‘lizard brain’ take charge.  When they do express deep emotion, it’s a conscious choice—not a shrill, often automatic response, that they might regret later.

In many ways, mind-set #six is a hallmark of the consummate professional. It’s precisely why I admire Rory so much.